We all know people who have an inflated ego, people who are so self confident that they dominate rooms the moment they walk in. Is this you? Are you a narcissist?

A narcissist has an inflated image of his or her own importance. This person’s ego is sky-high. This creates a constant need for admiration, and expresses itself in a lack of empathy for others. Regardless of this outward image, there is usually a fragile layer of self-esteem that is vulnerable to even the smallest criticism.Continue reading

appreciate the people in your life

appreciate the people in your life

Most parents tell their children that life goes by quickly. I know I do, my partner does, and most of my adult friends agree. Life flies by at a vast rate of knots.

Kids often ignore this advice until one day they find themselves giving the same advice to their children. We have a limited number of days on this planet. Because of this, you should appreciate the people in your life, especially those closest to you that you love.

When you start to approach middle age, sadly your older relatives are going to pass away. You will regret not having spent more time with them while they were still alive. Life gets busy for all of us, but, we need to make time to spend with and appreciate the people in your life. Their time is more limited than ours, all things being equal. And as they age, they need the love of family. They realise, more than people who are younger, that they won’t be around much longer.

Conversely, we need to appreciate our kids and encourage them to spend time with us, for the very same reasons. Your mid years will soon turn into your advanced years. Before long you will be the one realising that there’s not much time left.

Aside from family, we need to have friends as well. Our friends complete us and give us a more rewarding life. Appreciating friends is just as important as appreciating family. In many instances, friends will move away and we don’t hear from them again. It’s important to make an effort to keep in contact although this is not an easy task. But this is a great time for technology – emails, Facebook, Skype can all help you catch up on a regular basis.

Appreciation is about being grateful. It’s about taking the time and thanking them for being a part of your life. Always be willing to help your friends and family when they need it. Be grateful for the little things that people do for you, as well as the big things.

Make sure you let the people in your life know you are there for them. Don’t just say the words – show up for them. Take appropriate action, if needed. Sometimes, people don’t like to ask for help (aren’t most of us like this?). Consider showing up even if they say they don’t need help. Often, they admit that you helped and made their lives easier. That’s what friendship is all about – being there for someone even if they don’t ask.

Sometimes, appreciation is simply listening to others and finding out what they truly want or what they dream about. If you can later help them realise their dreams, they will be just as appreciative of you as you are of them.

If you want to be appreciative, be willing to give more than you take. This will set the stage that you are a caring person and it shows that you appreciate people. It’s easy and rewarding at the same time – you will feel great for helping someone that you care for.

Learn to say no

If you are anything like me, you’ll think that the world is flying by in a whirl. There are so many demands on our time these days, and you need to make the most of your time to be doing the things that you want to be doing to keep you on track with your own life’s desires.

But you’ll find that other people are always trying to put their own demands on your time. I’m sure you can think of that work colleague who rather than learn how to do something for them self, they always manage to talk someone into doing the work for them. And that poor soul is then further behind with their own projects whilst the colleague has time on their hands to get on with other stuff. And they look as if they are achieving so much more that they truly are whilst you get chastised for not meeting targets and deadlines.Continue reading

I’m sure you’ve often been asked, or asked yourself, what is your motivation, when tackling a job or task. But what does that mean?


When you ask the question what motivation means to you, it also begs the questions, “Do I believe in motivation” and, “Do I really need motivation?”  In other words, do you believe you need motivation to succeed in your career and personal goals?


The dictionary defines motivation as something that causes a person to act or a method to provide a motive. Motivation comes with many different faces.  Some you may recognize and some you may not.Continue reading

I’m not sure if it’s the cold weather, or just things going on at work, but I have been feeling a bit down recently. I know these moods occur to us all, and I’m not worried about it, but am just aware of it.

I’m not a fan of the cold, although I don’t like extreme heat either. Give me a range between 10 to 30 degrees and I’m happy. But each winter just seems to get longer, and although it’s not been a bad one by any stretch, I am so looking forward to spring coming. I know it’s around the corner.

But one thing I was interested in was the effect that food has on moods. It’s not an area that I know a lot about, but I know that some foods can give you a natural high. Who hasn’t reached for a chocolate bar to cheer them up?Continue reading